Saturday, October 31, 2009

The Chrysalis: Part B

A caterpillar goes around eating green leaves or everything it can and then it builds its chrysalis. I saw some of the most beautiful chrysalis; they were an emerald green color with a touch of silver on the edge. I just couldn’t get over how beautiful they were! For these last 6 months, that was what God was doing to my life, He was making a chrysalis for me. It was a time of healing and realization of just who and what I am.

I did the all the ‘right’ stuff looking for a teaching job. I did the web site, picked every job posting that I could and waited. Nothing happened; I did not receive phone calls for job interviews. I would find myself wondering, what am I doing wrong; why can’t I get a job? God whispered to me that in order for me to get a teaching job, I must forgive these two people who hurt me the most, and stop believing the lies that they said about me. It was so hard to do. I knew that I had to forgive, but just could not seem to do it. In Matthew 5:44 it states, “But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.” I started to pray for these two people, asking God to give them strength when needed, encouragement when they are down, and comfort when they are sad.

I told David one night that I would have to forgive in order to get a job. He said that he was going to be doing a sermon about forgiveness. If interested, you can listen to his sermons at . It was a powerful sermon; I thought I had let go of the pain but I didn’t. I still had the butcher knife in my heart.

Then Marilyn gave me the book, "Sand in my eyes", by Christine Lemmon. It would take not being able to sleep for me to finally read this book. It was that Saturday morning for me to realize all my life I have always struggle with not knowing who I am. I have always been know as “one of the Bechtel (Beck - tell) girls’, David’s wife, the preacher’s wife, or mom. Don’t get me wrong, I have come to realize that it is a great honor to be known as the preacher’s wife, David’s wife, and mom. David is an honorable, wise, honest, handsome,  caring, loving man and I am honored to be his wife. My girls are my pride and joy. But I really have not been known for who I am…and I really did not know who I am.

So God started to work on me through this book. Like the caterpillar building his chrysalis, I had and needed to take the time to discover who I am if God was going to work through me.

From Sand in my eyes, “ …whereas a woman has the liberty to constantly adjust who she is, how she thinks, behaves, reacts, what she learns, pursues, talks about, as well as who she wants to be in life. And if she finds she no longer likes parts of herself, she has the ability to change what it is she no longer likes.”


Friday, October 30, 2009

The Catarpiller

Several months ago, my friend Marilyn, gave me a book that she wanted me to read. She said that she felt that I really needed to read this book. Marilyn knew and saw the great pain I was going through with the lost of my job as a teacher and not being able to find another teaching job. I truly believe that she was listening to God’s whisper to give me this book. 

I read the book “Sand in My Eyes” by Christine Lemmon, when I was finally ready to take the butcher knife out of my heart that two people put there. That is what my pain felt like; these two people who caused me the greatest pain ever felt like they stabbed me with a butcher knife right in my heart. I was told that I was not good enough to be a teacher. I allowed Satan to come in and destroy me with the lies that I was listening to. The worst part is that I started to believe the lies where true, I would never get another teaching job. I was heart broken, for I felt like I let God down. I knew that God wanted me to be a teacher; to be a teacher who gives children hope and inspiration that they can be successful.

There is a page in the book with just these words of a proverb on it “ Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly. “ I had thought that my world as an Elementary teacher was over. I knew that I had to forgive these two people who hurt me the most, but I wanted to hang on to that knife in my heart. It was not until I finally would take the knife out (forgive)and hand that knife (pain) over to God, then God would turn me into that butterfly.

God wants us to forgive those who hurt us the most. He understands the pain that you are going through. Didn’t God go through the worst pain when he saw what his people did to his Son by hanging Him on the cross? Doesn’t God forgive us everyday for the nails that we still hammer into Jesus hands and feet? It is hard; but, it is required to forgive so that you may become a butterfly. Forgive those who hurt you so that you may experience what God has in store for you. As a co-teacher told me after I found out that I was being let go “God told me to tell you that He has better plans for you.”

Let go and Let God


Thursday, October 22, 2009


Ecclesiastes 3:1 is Solomon’s general observations. You might of have heard it, “A Time for Everything”. In verse 4A, it states: “a time to weep and a time to laugh” These past several months, I have been weeping over the lost of my job as a teacher and the fact that I have not been able to find another teaching position. Yes, I am doing everything that I been told to do…but my phone never rings. So I have been weeping, but now I am celebrating… for now it is time to laugh!

Can you imagine God laughing? I am sure He laughs all the time, especially when we tell Him what we are going to do. There is a church on Hwy 301 north of Bushnell, Fl whose side has a mural painting of Jesus laughing. David and I drive this road on our way to visit our mothers. When I see this mural it puts a smile on my face and reminds me it is ok to laugh. It has been a long time since I had a good laugh, I have been too busy weeping over my losses and woes. Then I read an e-mail from my sister, Marilyn.

You need to picture this in your mind – it will give you a good laugh also. It was about 10pm and I was sitting on the couch with my lab top and my ear phones in. David was sitting in his easy chair, watching TV, apparently slowly drifting off to sleep. As I was watching this video that Marilyn sent me, “ Michael Jackson ghost has been spotted at Neverland news report,” I was thinking I already seen this and was tempted to close the video down but I did not.

Shortly, I noticed the remote control went flying across the room. David’s feet were kicking out from the chair, like he was trying to get out of the chair in a hurry! He was doing his scared scream as well. I thought someone was breaking in the house. Apparently, without me realizing it, I had screamed at what jumped out at me in the end of this e-mail and did not realize that I was screaming. When I took my ear phones off, David questioned “What the heck were you screaming about?” His expression was priceless! I wish I had a video camera on – we would have won America’s Funniest Videos. I was no longer screaming but laughing so hard that I had tears coming down my face. As I am typing this I am still laughing; it was a sight to see!

Since then, I have found that I am not longer weeping over not having a job. I am enjoying not working and the pressures of being a teacher. I am enjoying cleaning the house, shopping for bargains, teaching adults about couponing, enjoying seeing what God is doing with this blog, and just enjoying being able to do what I want to do when I want to do it.

Many people allow their life problems to get in their way of laughing. They allow their problems with kids, stress at work, money or even marriage problems to prevent them from laughing. When we find ourselves in the mist of woes, then we need to stop weeping, praise the Lord for what we are going through and start laughing. Sure, life woes can hurt and make us depressed, but when we laugh something inside of us changes. I believe that laughter is good for the soul.

I hope that I caused you to laugh out loud today. Did it make you feel better? I am amazed at how different I feel now that I have laughed.

May God bless you with laughter this week!

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Cleaning Tips

Here are some helpful tips form Mary Hunt. I do use several of these when cleaning. I use shampoo for ring around the collar and for getting grease out of clothes. It really does work great!

I use baking soda to clean my stove glass top. Only use when when the stove is cold, not hot. I sprinkle baking soda on the glass top close to the 'rings' of dirt or grease. Then I wet my fingers and start to rub the baking soda into those 'rings' out. The baking soda becomes like a rubbing paste that will remove the rings of dirt off your stove top. You will be amazed at how this works! It will work your fingers depending on how much dirt or grime you have.

I gotten these tips from Mary Huntis the creator of Debt-Proof Living newsletter.

Alternative uses for hair conditioner:

-- Zippers will glide easily when you rub a little conditioner on the teeth.
-- Hair conditioner works for softening leather. But be cautious: Light-colored leather may darken, so test this first in an inconspicuous place.
-- Apply hair conditioner to the guide tracks of a stubborn window to help it open and shut easier.
-- Apply a small amount of conditioner to your garden tools to prevent rust.
-- Use hair conditioner as a substitute for shaving cream. Try this and you may never go back, as conditioner allows for a very close shave and leaves the skin silky soft.
-- To soften dry cuticles, rub in and leave on a little conditioner.
-- Rub a little conditioner on a bandage to ease removal.
-- Apply a light coat of hair conditioner to hands before painting or working on a car. You'll have a much easier time washing up later.
-- Hair conditioner removes dirt from your nails much easier than hand soap.
Alternative uses for shampoo:

-- Shampoo is formulated to remove oil from hair, so it works perfectly to remove the oily dirt rings on shirt collars. Simply apply as you would any stain pretreatment. This is especially handy when traveling.
-- In a pinch, you can wash your dishes in the kitchen sink with shampoo (not in the automatic dishwasher, however). It's perfect for camping, too, because shampoo is biodegradable.
-- Pour one tablespoon of shampoo under a running tap in the bathtub for a bubble bath.
-- A dab of shampoo works great as a hand-washing liquid.
-- Add two tablespoons of shampoo to a bucket of water and soap up your car. It will not harm the paint or the environment.
-- Add a tablespoon of shampoo to a sink or container of warm water to soak hairbrushes and combs. Shampoo cuts through sebum oil and will leave your brushes clean and fresh.
HEAVY-DUTY WINDOW CLEANER: Mix 1/2 cup household ammonia, 2 cups rubbing alcohol and 1 teaspoon liquid Dawn (the original blue variety). Mix ammonia, alcohol and detergent in 1-gallon jug. Fill with warm water. Shake before each use. This solution is great for cleaning really dirty windows and taking tape marks off windows; it's also great for removing soap film from shower doors.
DISINFECTING CLEANER: Mix household ammonia and rubbing alcohol together in equal proportions in a spray bottle. Label and keep out of reach of children. This is a very strong cleaner, so make sure you have ample ventilation when using. Wear gloves.
ALL-PURPOSE CLEANER 1/2 cup ammonia, 1/2 cup vinegar, 4 drops liquid dishwashing soap and 1/4 cup baking soda into 1 gallon of warm water. Mix well and dispense with a spray bottle.
TUB-AND-TILE CLEANER a terrific homemade version of Soft Scrub. In a small bowl, mix together 1-2/3 cups baking soda with 1/2 cup of dishwashing liquid (like Joy). Dilute with 1/2 cup water, and add 2 tablespoons white vinegar. Stir with a fork until smooth and all the lumps are gone. Pour into a 16-ounce squeeze container with a squirt flip-top cap (like a ketchup bottle or similar). Shake well before each use. Keep capped tightly between uses. Hint: Rinse the flip-top cap after each use so it won't get clogged.
CLEANER FOR PAINTED CABINETS: Mix 1/4 cup baking soda, 1 cup ammonia, 1/2 cup white vinegar and 1 gallon warm water. Pour into a spray bottle. Wash cabinets with a sponge and this solution. Rinse with a clean sponge and water. Wipe cabinets dry completely.
BALLPOINT-PEN INK: Hair spray works great! Spray the spot and wash.. might have to rewash.

CRAYON: Place the garment stain-side down on a stack of paper towels. Spray with WD-40 and let sit for five minutes. Flip garment over and spray again. Rinse well. Rub liquid dish soap into the stain. Rinse again. If any stain remains, apply a stick or spray stain remover and machine wash.
GLUE, GUM, STICKERS: Remove as much as possible with a dull knife or a spoon. To make it easier to remove gum, first rub an ice cube over it to freeze it. Apply WD-40 to loosen any remaining residue, then scrape it off and rinse. Rub in liquid detergent to remove any leftover stain. Machine wash.
PAINT: Wipe off dried acrylic or water-based paint residue with a paper towel. Sponge on a solution of laundry detergent and warm water. Once the paint has softened, remove as much as possible with a dull knife or a spoon. Rinse and repeat until most of the stain has been removed. Machine wash. To remove fresh latex paint from carpet, soak with dish detergent diluted with 20 parts water. Then agitate, blot, rinse and blot again. It will remove old, dried paint, but be careful. Lacquer thinner can also melt certain kinds of carpet, so test first.
CHALK STAINS: Shake out or vacuum up any loose chalk particles. Place the garment stain-side down on a stack of paper towels, and blot the back of the stain with a cloth dipped in rubbing alcohol. Rinse. Rub liquid dish soap into any leftover stain and let sit for several minutes. Machine wash.
GRASS: Apply Soilove or Stain Out, and rub gently into the stain. Let sit for five minutes, then wash with detergent and Clorox bleach (whites) or Clorox 2 (colors) in the hottest water safe for the fabric.
PERSPIRATION, DEODORANTS: If the stain has caused a color change, try to restore the color by using ammonia on fresh stains or vinegar on old ones. Do not use ammonia or vinegar with liquid bleach.

RESOURCES: Go to for hundreds of uses for WD-40. Find Soilove on supermarket shelves in California and Arizona, or online at Biz Bleach, Axion and Clorox 2 are in the laundry-products aisle


Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Helpful Hints to Making Ends Meet

In society many people are suffering by the lost of jobs or cut back in their hours. With these cut backs, one can really struggle to make ends meet. I will show/tell you want David and I are and have been doing to make ends meet.

1. Make a budget! The most important is to make a budget and stick to it. Also, make sure that your spouse, if you are married, is on board with you. Both of you must sit down together and make up a budget together. Making a budget together is so important as it allows each of you to see what is needed for the month and especially just what bills there are and just how much money is coming and going. It is the communication between you two that will keep your marriage a happy one.
2. After making a budget, make a plan to get out of dept. Look to see what item you can pay off first, get it paid off. Maye a high interested credit card? Then don’t go back into dept with that item. Example: David and I had a truck payment. Once we paid off his truck, we then put the truck payment toward another dept like our house payment. We were putting our truck payment toward our principal on our house payment then I lost my job. We did not go out and buy another car or truck.
3. When David gets paid, we take out $80 cash for the grocery money. We only pay for groceries by cash, so when our cash is gone no more groceries until the next paycheck. This causes for some preparing, making a list for those items that you need and at times, I have even made out menu s of what we will be eating for the week.
4. We now turn off our hot water heater during the day. It was reported that a hot water heater takes up about 30% of your electric bill. We turn it off at fuse box and then turn it back on 15 minutes before we use it. We did notice a drop in our electric bill.
5. During the day, I turn our AC unit up to 80 degrees. There is no since in cooling the whole house, when I will only be in one or two rooms. When I am in those rooms I turn on the ceiling fan, the turn the fan off when I leave. When I leave the house, the AC unit goes up to 88, that way it does not run a lot when I am gone.

God doesn't want His people to suffer. But I also believe, that when we abuse or not use what He has given us correctly, then we suffer at our own hands.

On Thursday, I will post some of my cleaning tips. I hope that these little tidbits were helpful.


Monday, October 12, 2009


Ever wonder why God gave us weeds?
I can honestly say that David and I have the true Florida yard, a yard that has been taken over by weeds with very little grass. We even had an invasion of cinch bugs that ate what good grass we did have. We even get those signs in our yard from companies like True Green to let ‘us’ treat’ your yard...for a price. We decided that we would look into having a company to treat our yard, maybe we can get the grass to come back one day. Right now we are just getting estimates.

As I was watching David and this guy walk around our yard last week, a whisper came from God. I was reminded of Matthew chapter 13. The first part of the chapter, Jesus talks about the farmer throwing out seeds and how some of the seeds falling on good soil, rocky soil, thorns and paths. This chapter also talks about the seeds among the weeds and how the weeds choked them out.

Like our grass, David and I allowed the weeds to take over our back yard. The weeds have almost destroyed our yard. God whisper to me that many Christians are just like these weeds. They are not rooted in God’s word, they are not doing God’s work; instead, Christians are allowing the weeds to choke them out.

I have allowed weeds to destroy my study life. I have allowed those who caused me great pain this past year to cause me not to pick up my bible as much as I used to. I don’t study the bible like I used to. I allowed the weeds to take over my life…but like the weeds in the bible, I am throwing these weeds away. I am going to get back into the word of God. I hope that you will read Matthew 13 and ask yourself, have you allowed the weeds to come in and destroy your life?


Thursday, October 8, 2009

What is couponing? Couponing is where you take coupons from the Sunday newspaper, magazines, or internet and use them on the items that your purchase. I have heard many times, “I don’t have time to use coupons.” I know that this is true, as when I was working, I really did not have time to do couponing. I would use them, but I would not shop like I do now that I am unemployed. I would challenge you to try to make the time to save. Many people take the time to read, work out, go the beach, and etc, but very few are willing to take the time to save $$... so I will challenge you to give it 21 days and see what you can save using coupons. I like to think that coupons are like money that many people through away each week.

One of the first steps in couponing is prepare yourself for your shopping trip. I spend at least 4-5 hours a week preparing for my shopping trip. On Sunday, I look at that ads that are in the paper, plus cut out any coupons that I will use in the near future. I take an envelope, (I use an envelope from any old mail that I received). I write down the store name and what that store has on sale that I want or can use. I then go through my coupons, pulling out those coupons that will match the sale ads. I also comparison shop. If one store has the same item for sale for less, then I will buy that product at that store. I have two types of envelopes, one for the grocery stores, Publix, Sweetbay, and Winn Dixie and another one for the drug stores, CVS, Walgreens and Target. I also go to the stores web site to see if there are any store coupons that I can use. When you use a store coupon with a manufacter’s coupon, it is called stacking. I do this a lot at Publix and Target.

Some helpful hints: Target is now starting to give back 5 cents for each ‘green’ bag that you use in their store. I take my Publix and Walgreens 'green' bags. You can use any ‘green’ bags that you have.

Also, depending on your Publix store manager, they will take other store coupons. I had a Walgreen’s coupon and of course Walgreen was out of the item.. so I went to my Publix store and they accepted it. Please ask the store manager before trying this at your Publix..from what I was told each store manager is different and might or might not take other store coupons.
Also Wal-mart will honor Publix, Target, and Sweetbay store ads. (Wal-mart will NOT honor the BOGO free deals). I put the ad with the product and Wal-mart will match the sale price and take your coupon(s) for that product.

Now for the great finds on my shopping trip yesterday.

Nabisco cookies in the 4oz boxes on sale for $1. I have $1 coupon when you buy 2 boxes, plus a register reward for $1. I was able to get 6 boxes of Oreo Double stuff for only $2.00. I paid .33 cents a box. I did go to another Walgreens and got 6 more boxes and paid $3, cost me .50 cents a box. (Ree, I can hear you now!! I promise not to eat many)

Dove Body Wash on sale for $7. CVS also had that when you bought $20 worth of Dove products you would receive a $10 Extra Bonus buck for next purchase. I had three $2 coupon off of when you bought one Dove body wash, so I got 3 bottles of Dove body wash for $5 each. I also had Extra bonus buck $4 off when your spent $20 and a $10 extra bonus buck. Extra bonus bucks are printed at the end of your cash register recipe to use on your next shopping trip. They are just like cash.. and CVS will let you use as many as you want as long as they don't have to give you cash back.

Total order : $21 - $4 of $20 purchase order = $17 - $6 in coupons = $11 - $10 Extra Bonus bucks = $1… Yes, I spent $1 for 3 of these Dove body wash!! I did have to pay sales tax so my total was $2.02 and I got a $10 Extra Bonus buck to use next time I go shopping.. This is what is so great about couponing!! Getting these three bottles, that normally sells for $8 for only .67 cents a bottle. Gotta love it..

Publix had their Old El Paso products on sale for $1.25. I bought two products and had a coupon for .60 off of two. What makes this deal great is that on the products that I bought there was a coupon that when you bought two Old El Paso products, you will get a free taco sauce mix.

2 x 1.25 = 2.50 - .60 = $1.90.. plus a free Taco sauce mix… so I got three items for $1.90 or .63 cents each…

If you have any questions, leave a comment and I will respond… I do plan another couponing class sometime soon at Faith church… I will let you know the date once it has been decided. I am wiling to go to other churches or organizations teaching about couponing. Just let me drop me a note in the comments or e-mail me to let me know if your group would be interested and the small details of having me come.


Tuesday, October 6, 2009


On Sunday morning, I had all intention to sit down and read my bible before doing anything else. But instead , I turned on my computer. I might need to harvest my crops on Farmville or Farm Town. I also might need to check my e-mail to see if anyone sent me one.

I did get an e-mail from my daughter asking for a family favorite recipe, “Yorkshire Pudding.” So I hunted for the recipe for about 30- 40 minutes. As I hunted, I thought back to when she was little and how I would ask her to come watch me cook so she would know how to when she was gone. Her reply was ‘That is what cookbooks are for. When I need to know who to cook something, then I will use a cookbook. ’

Interesting how she was not interested in learning how I cook and that is when God said to me. “ More interesting in how you have become so distracted to hearing me.” I had become so distracted to finding that recipe that I did not have time to listen to God.

Isn’t it interesting at how we become so distracted when we need to take the time to listen to God’s voice. Sometimes we allow our hurts and pains to prevent us from hearing God, or we become too busy with every day life that we don’t take the time to listen to His whisper. Take the time today, to sit and concentrate on Him. Ask him to talk to you…what do you have to say Lord? Sometimes God is only going to whisper to us and if we are too busy we are going to miss that whisper - we are going to miss the joys that God has for us. Take the time and menatate on Him… see what He has to say.

Also, listen to Mercy Me: Word of God Speak..


Dt. 30:20 “and that you may love the Lord you God, listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him.
Dt. 28:1 “If you fully obey God and carefully follow all His commands I give your today, the Lord your God will set you high above all nations on earth. All these blessings will come upon you and accompany you if you obey the Lord your God.”

Friday, October 2, 2009

Last night when I came home from my WAG meeting, David had the TV on the show 'Touch by An Angel', and it was one of my favorite episode Psalm 151. The story is about a boy, Petey, who is on the waiting list for a lung transplant. When he overhears some nurses talking about the next time he is hostipalize he would die, the boy makes out a list of what he wants to accomplish. You can say this was the first Buckle List movie. He only has about 9 items on his list, one is for his mom to finish the song that she started to write when he was born. Since he was sickly, she never finished it. This song is one of my favorites songs, Testify to Love.

Below is a web site for the words and at the top of the page, you can click on listen now..Listen to the song... it is a great song... then ask yourself do you testify to love? Testifying to Love can be a challenge when life becomes a struggle, but then that is what God expects his people to do... testify to His love even when we have struggles and heart breaks... sometimes when we testify, we might realize that our life struggles are not as bad as we think they are or that God is there with you, holding you and comforting you as you cry...(I often think that God is crying with us. I don't think that He likes it when we are hurting.)

As my mentor, Carolyn Shields, use to tell me... praise God in everything...the rough times and the good times... Testify to His Love... and He will bless you in more ways than you will know...

Some of items on Petey's list:
A flag so the angels could find him..
A special gift for his friend...
to be able to die at home
#5 for his mom to finish her song
#9 To go to Heaven..

Maybe we all should have #9 on our bucket list.. for us to go to heaven and sit at the right hand of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

Have a blessed weekend..